About Verity
A path I couldn’t predict
“Where do you see yourself in five years?” always felt impossible for me to answer. My path has taken a number of unexpected turns. After finishing a degree in Computing Science, I was far more inspired to travel than to get a job.
What followed was a series of adventures that included volunteering overseas and exploring different ways of living and working. Looking back, what connected all of it was a search for meaning, purpose, and understanding where I fit in the world.
One of the most significant realisations came while living in Ecuador. As the excitement of travel gave way to everyday life, I felt like I wasn’t useful. I couldn’t see how my skills could contribute to the community around me.
The Turns
How I got here
What Changed
Acceptance and change are not opposites.
For a long time, if I felt upset, anxious or reactive, I would immediately start thinking about how I should be instead. I should be more accepting. Calmer. More responsible for myself. Looking back, much of that was rooted in self-rejection.
Rather than allowing my experience, I was trying to improve it. Rather than listening to what my emotions were communicating, I was trying to make them go away. What I eventually realised was that before I could create meaningful change, I first needed to stop fighting with what was already here.
It is difficult to create your future while you are fighting with the present. The qualities I had spent years trying to force, authenticity, confidence, self-acceptance and ease, began to emerge naturally when I stopped fighting myself.
You don't need to become someone else.
So much can change when we stop fighting who we are and begin to accept, and be there for, the person who is already here.
That is what I aim to create in sessions: a space where you feel safe enough to be honest about what is happening now, clear enough to explore what you would like to create, and supported as the process unfolds.